Talking to a loved one about home care services

We care about our family members and loved ones which is why it is painful to watch them struggle to care for themselves. You may have noticed their hygiene is lacking, their kitchen is a mess, or they stopped cooking simple meals for themselves. Or perhaps your loved one has suffered a recent fall or left the stove on. These may be warning signs that you should begin to discuss home care options. This conversation may be challenging and difficult but it’s important! Here are some tips on talking to a loved one about home care services….

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  1. Express your concerns as your own. A family member might be more open when you’re honest and express your concern for their health and safety. Instead of saying “It’s clear you can’t take care of yourself anymore,†try “I’m worried about you and want to make sure you are able to access everything you need when I’m not around. What do you think we should do?â€
  2. Respect your loved one’s autonomy and involve them in decisions. Unless your loved one is unable to make decisions for themselves, the final decision about care is up to them. You can help by offering suggestions and your opinions. If you’re worried they’re making the wrong decision, come up with alternative solutions. Ask them if they’ll try it temporarily and you guys can always make a new plan after a short period of time.
  3. Try to find the real reasons behind any resistance. A loved one who’s resistant to receiving help could be frightened that they are no longer able to be independent. Maybe they don’t want strangers in their home. Try to figure out the real reason behind their resistance to home care and help them move past it.
  4. Enlist the help of others. Is their someone your loved one knows who has used home care services? Talking to others who have had positive home care experiences can help with any resistance or fear.